When do you know that God has already sent the one meant for you?
God is allowing a certain person in our life for two lessons: It’s either he/she is a lesson or he/she is a blessing. I’m a firm believer that every person we come across our paths has a purpose in our life.
Join us on our talk about Pierre. A well-known stock broker and his company. He met Lisa because she was new in the company and she was dared by their co-workers to jump in with both feet into Pierre’s life in general. Maybe at work and in his love life. Both of them seem to enjoy and cherish what they both have. Not until something happened.
If you were in Lisa’s shoes, would you confess to Pierre the sole reason why you take the initiative on making the first move with him?
Lisa is just an average new employee trying to fit in on her workmates by granting them what they asked her to do. There’s nothing wrong with meeting someone, taking the initiative to do so. However, this is where the line is drawn - her intentions. The only thing she did mess up is not confessing the reason the very first moment they decided to go out and spend time with each other. It’s all about respecting the other person’s time and effort and what he's going to do based on the intention you just confessed. Whether good or bad, the individual has the right to know what you are up to and know why you did what you did.
What is the sole foundation of a relationship for you?
Trust is the sole foundation of any relationship. How would you pursue someone that hides a secret from you? How would you fall in love with someone who you aren’t sure if he/she’s faking it? Would you allow someone to deceit you with their words and actions? No. Trust is something you build step by step. It has always been words with supporting actions. If you can’t trust someone, you can’t define yourself as committed to your partner. No one wants someone who they can’t share everything with because partnership requires the kind of commitment who won’t budge over things that haven't been said and only revealed after some time and effort was exerted to the relationship and know each other for some time.
Second next from trust is, Communication.
Communication is crucial in knowing someone and even before going on the first date. Nowadays, substance in communicating is what someone is looking for on a partner. How would you be transparent to someone who is showing just a bit of themselves and you’ll eventually end up questioning the real personality of this person you’re trying to deepen your relationship with. Communication gets you to the aspects that are essential for a relationship. Goals, mindsets, perspectives and shared values are the things you need to know more about this person for the relationship to work and go with harmony. Preferably to know them early to know if you still want this person to be with you your whole life or stop because you know that eventually you don’t share the same values and it would be hard for the both of you to come with a point of reconciling on every fights since the both of you is coming from different perspectives and someone wouldn’t compromise.
Love alone isn’t enough for relationships to work. As God says in the Bible, 1 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth." Let us hold on to what God says for us to be able to distinguish what love really looks and feels like. Let us have this standard on the person we’ll settle with. May we all have the Love Connection God asks us to have. Also, may we not be blinded by love to not see through the flaws of our partner just because of the worldly reason “I love him/her. Nothing else matters. Let us not be a fool in this world as choosing a partner is a crucial decision we're going to make in this lifetime. May you all have a great relationship with everyone you love.